Quotes & Memes

"To be normal is the ultimate aim of the unsuccess

"To be normal is the ultimate aim of the unsuccessful." — Carl Jung #quoteoftheday #lifecoach #lifecoaching #inspirationalquotes #successquotes #mentor #mentoring #growth

Our need to connect with others is a powerful forc

Our need to connect with others is a powerful force, and often we make compromises to maintain a connection. This is perfectly natural and even necessary, particularly when it comes to intimate relationships.

However, there is a big difference between compromising ‘what you do’ and ‘who you are’. Changing what you do might mean changing some of your habits or accommodating a different schedule. However, compromising who you are means sacrificing your true nature, your natural instincts, your beliefs and values. These too, manifest in what we do, but such behaviours are integral to our soul and being.

Many of us would have heard the story of the Scorpion and the Frog — “A scorpion asks a frog to carry it across a river. The frog hesitates, afraid of being stung by the scorpion, but the scorpion argues that if it did that, they would both drown. The frog considers this argument sensible and agrees to transport the scorpion. The scorpion climbs onto the frog's back and the frog begins to swim, but midway across the river, the scorpion stings the frog, dooming them both. The dying frog asks the scorpion why it stung, to which the scorpion replies ‘I couldn't help it. It's in my nature.’ ” (Wikipedia)

What does this mean? The scorpion compromised its true nature to connect with the frog in hope of safe passage to the other side of the river. Things didn’t work out too well though, and this is because our nature, who we are, is the most powerful force behind our behaviours. We might be able to suppress it for a time, but doing so is to betray one’s self, which leads to unhappiness, guilt, shame, low self-esteem and the relentless ‘need’ to return to our natural sense of being.

Compromise what you do in your relationships, but never compromise who you are. And of course, always respect the wonderful differences and uniqueness in us all.

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When we live our authentic self, we accept and lov

When we live our authentic self, we accept and love ourselves completely. No ego is required because there is no need or want for anything outside. We are the energy of love and so we are fulfilled.

However, when we separate from our true self, when we play different characters for the world and our peers, we create hollows in our soul which must be filled. We might do this with material things, perhaps a new hairdo or an expensive car, we might seek change in jobs or relationships looking for the thrill of something new, we might even do ‘good’ deeds but only for validation or status. And when energy wanes and reserves run low, we might turn to alcohol or drugs to help fill the void.

One thing is for certain. The hollows will always drain as the ego needs to feed. And this will always be so when we separate from who we really are.

We tend to know when we’re playing a character. We’re simply ‘not ourselves’. And when playing these characters for too long, sometimes we even ‘lose ourselves’. However, if you feel this way, the answer is relatively simply …

Return to your true self.

There are many ways to do this. Spend some time on your own. Meditate. Nourish yourself. Do things that you love. Listen to favourite songs. Visit loved ones. Volunteer your time to help someone else. Take the time to return from your head to your heart. The less we play characters to appease, to make other people happy, or to guard ourselves from our fears, the smaller these ego-feeding hollows become. And then, of course, the less they need to be filled!

Ego is necessary. It often helps us to integrate with the world, to influence or achieve, and to communicate effectively with other people. However, it’s all about where you decide to live. Where you spend most of your time. The place you regularly check-in and hit the reset button. So, find your place of authenticity and check-in often. This is the best prescription for a happy and fulfilling life.

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"We act consistent with who we believe we are" —

"We act consistent with who we believe we are" — Anthony Robbins #lifecoach #lifecoaching #mentor #mentoring #identity #growth #personaldevelopment #quotes #quoteoftheday

"Exercising good judgement is often, not to judge

"Exercising good judgement is often, not to judge at all" — Emotiquo #lifecoach #lifecoaching #mentor #mentoring #quoteoftheday #quotes #love #compassion #empathy

"When we avoid conflict to keep the peace, we star

"When we avoid conflict to keep the peace, we start a war within ourselves" — Unknown author #lifecoach #lifecoaching #quotes #quoteoftheday #peace #conflict #turmoil #personaldevelopment #growth #empowerment #lifequotes #life

"The best view comes from the hardest climb" — U

"The best view comes from the hardest climb" — Unknown author. #quotes #quoteoftheday #lifecoach #lifecoaching #mentor #mentoring #personaldevelopment #growth #challenge #empowerment #win #achieve #view

Mistakes are inevitable in life, and necessary to

Mistakes are inevitable in life, and necessary to help us grow. However, when we make mistakes, many of us feel a sense or regret. We often reject the result or outcome, and focus on our misguidance or misjudgement that led to the error.

While reflection is important to learn from a mistake, we can sometimes get stuck in replaying events over and over again, consumed with regret rather than acceptance of what is done and focussing on what to do next.

So, perhaps there is another way to deal with mistakes. Perhaps, we simply make it part of the 'dance' which is life. If we trip turn it into a quick-step, if we push back turn it into a moonwalk, and if we fall flat on our face turn it into that wonderful 80's move 'the caterpillar'! Mistakes will always happen, but you can choose to err with grace. Take life a little less seriously, and you can turn your stumble into part of life's dance.

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"Don't let today's disappointments cast a shadow o

"Don't let today's disappointments cast a shadow on tomorrow's dreams" #lifecoach #lifecoaching #mentor #mentoring #quotes #quoteoftheday #growth #personaldevelopment #life #dreams

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must no

"Let go of the Past and the Past will let go of yo

"Let go of the Past and the Past will let go of you" #lifecoach #lifecoaching #mentor #mentoring #personaldevelopment #selfcare #selflove #growth #spirituality #life #past #empowerment

A compelling quote by Arthur Ashe, the first and o

A compelling quote by Arthur Ashe, the first and only African-American male tennis player to win the US Open, Australian Open and Wimbledon — "Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can." A road to a goal is often overwhelming, but it starts with just a single step. No matter how small it may seem, how terrifying it may be, or how distant the finish line appears, it's always one step closer to where you want to be.

So, what stops us? As Ashe infers, it's usually attached to lack. A lack of resources, lack of belief or perhaps the lack of a compelling reason. However, once we accept that our ability to succeed is about resourcefulness rather than resources, about focus rather than fear, about serving others rather than ourselves, we can break through the barriers of procrastination and take the first step towards a goal.

If you can read, write, speak and move, you're already well ahead of the game. Many have achieved success starting with less. And remember, there are multiple ways to reach a goal. If one process doesn't work, try another, and another, and another. Just keep moving. Keep taking action. Keep reminding yourself of your 'why'... And before you know it, you'll have so much momentum that the starting post will disappear behind you and the finish line will become crystal clear.

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So what are ‘your demons’? They are the negati

So what are ‘your demons’? They are the negative experiences and emotions from your past. It might be anger towards a parent, or guilt over wronging another, or perhaps even shame attached to abuse. Any kind of trauma or experience that incites an enduring negative emotion can become a ‘demon’ from your past.

Of course, negative emotions are completely natural. However, as conscious beings, we need to move through these emotions, learn from them and let them go. If we don’t, if we decide to ignore or reject them, over time they manifest in our subconscious and play out in our future lives. This can be emotionally, mentally or physically. Emotionally, a ‘demon’ may result in someone being untrusting in relationships or consistently sabotaging their own success. Mentally, it may appear as depression or anxiety. And physically, as some kind of dis-ease in the body…

Author and speaker, the late Louise Hay is well known for her theories on linking physical illness to past traumas. She claimed her own cancer healed only after she dealt with her childhood abuse and embracing forgiveness of herself and those around her.

So, if you have some ‘demons’ you haven’t dealt with, it’s time to do so. And yes, it can be a challenging thing to do, but better that ‘you’ get stronger than your ‘demons’. And always remember, you don’t have to do it alone.

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Can you remember the first time you were happy? Fo

Can you remember the first time you were happy? For most of us, we can recall some time in our early childhood where our hearts were filled with joy. And we can likely reflect on many more times that we’ve genuinely smiled, laughed and felt the lightness of life.

So, why do we talk about the ‘pursuit of happiness’ when it’s something we’ve experienced many times before?

Society, particularly in the Western world, teaches us to believe that we need to do, be, get or create something in order to be happy. We surrender the authentic happiness which lies in our heart to the expectations which build in our head. Happiness falsely becomes a destination we search for, rather than a space we can ‘return to’ at any time.

Next time you say, "I'll be happy when", remember happiness isn't a goal. It's not somewhere you're headed. It's somewhere you've been. All you need do is return from your head to your heart. You can always find it there.

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How much of your time do you spend weighed down by

How much of your time do you spend weighed down by things you can't control?

It might be anger over someone who wronged you in the past, or guilt about someone you wronged. Perhaps, it's worry about an event that is yet to happen (and probably won't), or stress over someone keeping a commitment. Or maybe, you're taking on the weight of the World's injustices, or sharing the burden of a friend's illness... All of these can be very real and may often require your intervention, but they are not your 'weight to carry'. Remember, a weight is something you 'experience'. And the key is to 'observe' rather than 'experience' any situation that is not yours in the present moment.

For example, you can observe past events, learn and let go. You can forecast the future, make a plan and move forward. You can observe the World's deficits and take a small action to make things better. Or you can support a friend with love and resources rather than share in their burden.

Next time you feel a 'weight on your shoulders', ask yourself the question — "Is this my responsibility in the present moment?" If your answer is 'No', first take a moment to experience the 'now'. What can you hear? What can you see? What can you feel? Take a minute or two to appreciate your 'experience'. And then 'observe' the situation that was previously weighing you down. See it for what it really is. Separate. And then knowing the 'weight is not yours to carry' but rather to 'observe', leave it behind, walk alongside it, or kick it far off into the distance. You now have the freedom to choose.

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"You can only lose something that you have, but yo

"You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are." — Eckhart Tolle

Constantly take the time to appreciate your uniqueness, your love and kindness, your sense of adventure, your humour and zeal, your spiritual energy, your individual tastes and expressions. These are just some of the things you cannot lose. They create who you are, and you are like no other that ever was, is, or ever will be.

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We've all heard the cliché, "Sometimes, you have

We've all heard the cliché, "Sometimes, you have to be cruel to be kind". How true this is. Of course, we don't want to be cruel or offend someone we care about, but when it's in their best interests, it may be necessary.
For example, a parent is often required to be harsh when disciplining or denying their children; we might need to be blunt with a good friend to make them aware of a destructive path (e.g. drug or alcohol abuse); and coaches are certainly familiar with this scenario in order to have clients or players perform to their fullest potential.

Being kind is not always conducive to protecting someone's feelings. And similarly, it might not always be conducive to protecting yours... When you feel as if a friend has hurt or offended you, take a few moments to assess the real basis of their action. Remove your ego and impulse from the equation and ask yourself — What was their intent? Was it really to hurt you? Or was it to help you?

If the intent was good, then release the 'cruelty' of their action and embrace the authenticity of their 'kindness'. Realise that this is someone who genuinely cares about you. Someone who has put your own interests in front of theirs. Otherwise, why would they selflessly risk your connection in order to help you live a better life?

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A stunning quote from EQ member Christopher Wallac

A stunning quote from EQ member Christopher Wallace, Advisor to Men. It depicts the synergy and polarity between masculine and feminine energies. The wildness, power and breadth of the feminine providing for variety, beauty and the vividness of life, complemented by the channeled focus and purpose of the masculine adding a compass for guidance and direction. #lifecoach #lifecoaching #masculinity #femininity #relationships #love #intimacy #intimacycoach #marriage #attraction #mentor #mentoring